RESPECT

Respect, a lost idea in today's society. A lost thought to young people except that they want respect, but anyone else has to "earn" respect. It is so sad to watch people today, driving, walking, speaking, shopping.... you see no respect towards others, only self-centerness. Where to start explaining my position....... well I guess this post will start with driving.
When you are driving, do you think about other drivers on the road or do you just look out your windsheild and think only of what your needs on the road is. Do you give signals when you change lanes? Do you allow someone to cut in front of you in a long line of traffic? Do you smile even if someone cuts you off or do you flip them off?

Who taught you to respect? Did they tell you and not do it themselves, or did they teach by example? What if we put others first and ourself last? What would happen to how we treat others? Just some thoughts.

Bounderies ARE needed!

Today I will be talking about parents who do not put bounderies up for children. Imagine if you will that you as an adult had to decided everything. You had no laws that had to be obeyed, in fact no one had any laws to obey. Things would be caotic! As adults we have decided, or voted people into office to make the laws that we follow. But children, they have such a limited scope and a limited if any way to make safe sound decisions on what their bounderies should be, that they were given parents to make those decisions and bounderies for them. Parents are to teach them as they grow how to make those decisions. So many parents today are afraid to say the most simple word in the world - NO and make it stick. Last night at my work, I watched a father tell a child to hold his own drink. This child was about 10 years old. He refused. The father then held the cup over the trash can and said either to take it or I throw it away. The child stood there and just looked at his father and the cup with a look of "Yea right!" I stood there and watched this and then I saw the mother, she gave the father a look and he did not throw it away. The child knew the father would not follow through with throwing the drink away, so the child knew he was in control. Parents should be a unified front, not one against the other with the child in the middle. Another time I watched a child want some candy, the mother said NO. The girl, age 13, then started to pitch a fit - yelling at her mother, kicking her and hitting her. Her mother then got her the candy and looked at me and said, she is emotional troubled. I watched the child then turn to her friends and smile and mouth - it works everytime. Again - who is in control?. I have watched parents take up for children that were acting like animals in public (not pretentd doggies, or cats or monkies). I have seen parents that are more concerned with their cell phones or talking to their friends that did not notice that their child was about to pull a fire alarm. I have been called a F***ing idoit because I ask a 15 year old not to hit signs that were hanging from a ceiling. Parents' job is to protect a baby and start to teach them. As a child grows and learns and shows they have learned, then it is their job to let go little by little. To trust them with decisions that are within their capabilities. If a parent does their job, a child will be a responsibile adult and teach their chldren the same way. I was not the perfect parent, but when I said NO or their father said NO it was NO. Yes meant yes and No meant NO! They knew that no matter what one of us said the other would back it up, so their was no mom said no, so go to dad or the other way around. I have great fear for my grandchildren, not for the way they are being raised, but the people they will have to deal with and their children will have to be around. People that have not been given boundries and were given trophies for just showing up! Parents be PARENTS Please!!!!